Don’t be scared to fall in love. And no, I’m not talking about that cute backpacker boy or the hot local guide.
Fall in love with new places, the inspiring experiences and most importantly with yourself.
After that you can hit up with all the handsome and beautiful people you meet on your travels or in life generally. This may sound corny but loving yourself first is important. Trust me I know what I’m talking about.
Being scared of life is somehow been normal feeling for me as long as I can remember. It has been easier to follow someone and make sure you will never be alone. When pushed to experience something new my survival guide used to be: find new friend, follow them everywhere like a lost puppy, a little by little get attached to them too much and in the end get lost even more.
This changed when I did my first solo travel trip year ago. I took my 20 years old self to adventure I had always dreamed about but never believed to accomplish. For the first time in my life I followed my own nose and learned how to love myself.
It’s not easy but it will happen naturally. Just keep doing what you want and don’t always listen to others. Not even if they seem to beย the love of your life. Being alone seems scary but it will make your learn a lot about yourself. What do you really like?
You have a whole day ahead of you. No one to tell you where to go. Your day is full of choices and you have to make them. Will you wake up early or sleep until the noon? Do you want to eat in safe McDonald’s or try something suspicious looking local cuisine? What do you want to do with your life?
Loving yourself seems so hard. For me it has meant to like the way I look, decide my own destiny and be proud of the things I have accomplished. At the age of 20 and before I left my home to wander neither of those were true. I hated my appearance and didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I was totally lost.
After I had spend some time alone and listened my own opinions there was change. I began to like the person staring me back from mirror. She wasn’t yet beautiful but something in her eyes screamed happiness and that made her perfect in my eyes. That made me love her, myself. Without even trying I had finally fallen in love with myself.
I didn’t still had direction for my life or any remarkable achievements. But I didn’t need them. Twenty years I had tried to form perfect me to fall in love with but it only took one month to realize that wasn’t what I needed. The perfect me wasn’t the one I would love.
What I am trying to say with this somehow confusing piece of my mind is to listen yourself. Love the person you are. Be with yourself before you give your soul to someone else. I have seen so many of my friends falling head over heels and then their relationships have ended because they don’t know their own self well enough.
Traveling solo is the way I figured this out and I think it is the easiest way. Alone in the country you don’t know and people speaking language you can’t understand it’s easier to get closer yourself.
Maybe I’m wrong but this is my opinion. This is how I see the world.
I know I promisedย to publish the London travel diary today but I have been sick so here is old travel rant I wrote months ago. Suprisingly, travel rants have been quite popular posts in my blog. Also, I have the most fun writing these pieces even if they don’t make a lot of sense. So here is another travel rant and be aware that there will be even more of them in the future!
With love,
Endless Path Ventures
One thing I have learned is that travelling alone teaches you more about yourself than probably anything else in life. Its the best school of life that ever existed and you are your own teacher.
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I agree with you! I have learned most about life while travelling alone. Everyone should travel alone at least once in their life. And thanks for commenting. ๐
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Hi Viivi,
I found your blog is really interesting and inspiring. You shared your experience and gave many great tips. So I would like to nominate you for the Sunshine Blogger Award. If you wish to take the challenge, please refer to this post for the rules: https://lenjourneys.com/sunshine-blogger-award/
Have a wonderful weekend! ๐
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Thank you so much! It means a lot for me and I really like your blog too. I will take the challenge in my side blog http://www.viiviseverina.wordpress.com
I hope you had wonderful weekend too ๐
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Oh, I did not know you were nominated ๐ But well, another nomination does no harm anyway.
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It’s always funny to answer to these things so no worries ๐
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“Alone in the country you donโt know and people speaking language you canโt understand itโs easier to get closer yourself.” Love it! Thank you for so eloquently stating this truth.
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Thank you! I’m happy other people think like I do. I hope safe travels for you ๐
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Just loved reading your post!! True in all ways you have written! You know I have done only few solo travels by now ( mostly on official tours) and I have still fears of traveling alone. But it’s the best meditation one can have!! Most of my life I have felt lost and empty and that’s the feeling that drives us to even travel more! ๐๐
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Thank you so much! It’s good to know we aren’t alone with these feeling but rather so many people still fear solo travel AND do it to try to find themselves. And lately I have realized feeling lost isn’t so bad because it is what makes me try so hard to be better person. I hope safe travels for you ๐
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Nice post. Thanks so much for sharing it. I agree everyone should travel as much as possible and push the envelope of your comfort level. You never know what is just around the corner. Nice to meet you and I look forward to reading more from you. Pamela
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Nice to meet you too, Pamela! And thanks for commenting. I think not knowing what’s behind that next corner really is what makes life worth of living ๐
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I agree and like the way you think. ๐
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We fell in love with travel many years ago!
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Me too! Thanks for commenting.
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This is a really lovely post, thanks for sharing!
Whether it’s with a place or a person, I think falling in love while travelling is a bit of a universal dream.
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Thank you! It really is dream but dream that is easier to accomplish than it seems ๐
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Hi. Hello. I just started my new blog, and obviously, I’m having a hard time editing my page, I am new to all these stuff so I hope that you can show me the ropes, and hopefully, I’ll get the hang of it, I read all your recent blogs and I gotta say, you are one hell of a writer, and that really amazes me because, I am an aspiring writer as well, I am not that good but I am learning everyday, and I would really like it if people would share how they think of my writings, or to be able to have an audience and make people appreciate that it’s okay to be weird and different. I hope that we can be friends and learn from each other. Thank you!
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Hello! And thank you for your kind words. I will go and check out your blog. If you have anything to ask or have any problems using the site/editing your blog just ask me. I’m always happy to help and give advises even if I’m still not so good at using this site either. ๐
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Aww. That is so nice of you. I will follow your Blog Page because I admire your Writings. I don’t get a lot of chances to fix my Page because of my Job but I am trying to make it as acceptable as I can. Haha. Thank you for viewing my latest post.
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Thank you! In the end writing blog is meant to be fun so don’t worry about it too much. Good luck. ๐
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Thank yoo. Yes. Let’s have fun. I really love it when I meet people with the same passion as mine. I mean, it’s not everyday that I get to see talents and creativity, especially, in this generation.
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It really is nice to know there is other people of our generation loving writing and having blogs. Thank for commenting! ๐
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